Sometimes it can be difficult to support a friend or family member who is being abused.

Remember the abuse they are suffering is rooted in isolation, power, and control. Your role is to help them make their own decisions, not rescue them.

Believe the stories they tell you. Listen more than you talk. Avoid saying what you would do. Instead, say you are really worried about their safety and ask if they have a safety plan. And respect your friend or family member’s decision, even if they decide to stay. Sometimes, it’s because leaving will be too dangerous right now.

Become familiar with things to consider when making a safety plan. Suggest that they call our 24-hour hotline to speak with an advocate. You can call us, too. We are here to answer questions and help you support your friend and family.

Listen. Believe. Empower. Be informed.