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History of Handmade by Survivors

“It’s not just about the product. It’s very much about the person that put their creativity and their heart into the product.” 

Every soap, tin of bath salts, lip balm, and candle is from a survivor’s creativity, care, and journey toward healing. Bekah, a family advocate and the staff member who makes products with survivors, shares this history of Handmade by Survivors.

Product Making History   

Bekah has always loved art, and years ago, she began leading our crafting groups. 

“I really like doing activities that involve self-care, particularly for adults. Adult women don’t often take time to take care of themselves,” she says.  “And in an abusive relationship, are discouraged from taking care of themselves. I really believe in the idea of giving them a safe space to tap into creativity.”   

Early product-making focused on lip balm, homemade lotions, and salve because they’re easy products to make.  

“We would go into the kitchen and grab a microwave and take it into the art room. We bought a little hot plate and we would just do an impromptu craft group and teach ladies how to make things for themselves.”  

Survivor Involvement   

“Throughout the whole process, survivors helped along the way. Every product we’ve made has a story connected to it. It’s not really about the product, it’s about the individual that came up with the product.”   

“We would play word games in our craft group with whatever scent we were using. I would have participants choose an essential oil or a flower or an herb that they were really drawn to,” explains Bekah. “They would share why they were drawn to it. From there we would research and figure out what notes went well together within that scent.”  

Participants created Soothing Serenity, one of our very first soaps, from start to finish. Most recently, the Benevolence cold-process soap also was imagined and formulated by a participant.   

“She happened to pick up an essential oil that I was using for a group activity the following day and fell in love with the scent. We came up with a blend and decided to add an extra soap that we weren’t even planning to do.”  

The Heart of Our Products  

“The whole purpose of what we do is about the journey for the individual working on the product. Our end goal is to give them a safe space to tap into skills that they already have and to give them a safe place to tap into something that might give them some self-care down the road. Something to be proud about.”  

Every Handmade by Survivors purchase is about the person that put their creativity and their heart into the product.  

“I very much went into this with the hope of creating a space for economic justice for women that have not had those opportunities. The women I work with have skills that they just don’t tap into because they haven’t had the encouragement, or the time, or don’t realize they have the skills.”   

Over the years, many ladies have gone on to open their own online shops or make their own products and sell to small businesses.   

Bekah’s Favorite Product  

“I love anything Awaken Joy. I love that peppermint scent. It reminds me of my grandmother, so it just takes me to a happy place.”  

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Domestic Violence is Not a Joke

An Instagram post by Kristen Bell caused controversy and made headlines during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Bell recently celebrated her 12th wedding anniversary with husband Dax Shepard by posting a photo on Instagram of the couple embracing. The photo caption reads:

“Happy 12th wedding anniversary to the man who once said to me: ‘I would never kill you. A lot of men have killed their wives at a certain point. Even though I’m heavily incentivized to kill you, I never would.’”

Comments on the post have been mixed.

Some have called out the post as offensive, especially during Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Others contend the post is an inside joke shared between two people who are in love.

Dateline, the true-crime news magazine show, commented with one word: “Screenshotted.”

“Heavily Incentivized”

Also a celebrity and actor, Shepard is more recently known as the co-host of Armchair Expert, a popular podcast that is self-described as celebrating the “messiness of being human.”

He often weaves his academic background in anthropology throughout discussions on the podcast. With that slant in mind, Shepard’s remark is not wrong. Most societies have incentivized violence against women for centuries.

Under English common law, for example, “coverture” meant a woman’s identity merged with her husband’s upon marriage. Husbands were legally allowed to “chastise,” a term that allowed physical violence to maintain the obedience of wives.

In recent centuries, laws began to change, but culture didn’t catch up as quickly.

Courts often excused men who killed their wives as victims of passion rather than perpetrators of murder. Media equated possessiveness with love, and advertisers built entire campaigns on the idea that a woman’s role was to please or risk punishment.

An acceptance of dominance has continued to shape expectations of love and marriage in recent generations. Domestic violence was not even defined as a distinct crime in most of the United States until the 1970s.

Concerns

Bell’s decision to share Shepard’s statement in the context of a marriage milestone reveals a spectrum of concern.

An intimate partner’s proclamation that they won’t kill you, even though they could, must be considered a red flag in our mission.

Many commenters contend the photo caption echoes the couple’s dark humor. A resurfaced promotional interview for “Hit & Run,” a 2012 film that co-starred both actors, reveals a history of joking about domestic violence and homicide.

But domestic violence is not a joke, and the threat of lethal violence is not a funny Instagram caption.

The Risk is Real, Scary & Difficult to Escape

Intimate partner violence results in nearly 1,300 deaths and more than two million injuries in our nation annually.

Three women are killed by their husbands or boyfriends in the United States every day. More than 20 domestic violence homicides occur in Kentucky every year.

The risk for lethal harm increases when a victim attempts to escape because the abuser losing power, control, and dominance.

How would you respond if a friend or family member told you their intimate partner said this? Would you dismiss the statement as humor or consider the statement as cause for concern?

Further Reading

Read an article from writer Yvonne Liu. Trigger Warning - these details could be re-traumatizing for survivors of abuse.

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Holiday Gift Drive for Survivors

Your generous donation of new, unwrapped gifts will make spirits brighter! We will be the only source of holiday support for more than 100 adults and children fleeing abuse this season.

Prefer to shop online?  Visit our gift registries on Amazon or IKEA to ship your gift donations directly to our shelter.

Need to print this list? Follow this link to download a print-friendly pdf.

Gift Cards

Walmart
Target
Great Clips
Restaurants
Gas Stations

Babies & Toddlers

Learning toys
Building blocks
Stuffed animals
Play mats
Mobiles
Soft books
Baby blankets
Rattle toys
Push toys
Teething toys
Bath toys & towels

Children

Learning toys
Building blocks
Dolls
Sports balls
Craft sets
Action figures
Winter socks
Scarves, hats, gloves
Tutus & capes
Toy trucks
Stuffed animals
Board games

Tweens & Teens

Blanket hoodies
Ear buds (bluetooth or corded)
Card & board games
Art supplies
Lego sets
Squishmallows
Winter socks
Scarves, hats, gloves
Journals
Make-up & manicure sets
Pimple patches
Tumblers

Adults

Curling + flat irons
Blow dryers
Make-up & manicure sets
Lotion sets
Adult coloring books
Bluetooth speakers
Journals
Date books
Scarves, hats, gloves
Ear buds (bluetooth or corded)
Perfume
Jewelry
Purses
Cute umbrellas
Tumblers

Supplies

Gift bags
Big plastic gift bags
Tissue paper
Ribbon & bows
Tape
Gift tags

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Bluegrass Gives 2025

The GoodGiving Challenge is now Bluegrass Gives! This day of online giving happens on Tuesday, December 2.

We have exciting news to share! Bluegrass Gives is officially a one-day event this year, but early giving opens a week before the event on Tuesday, November 25. And your early gift to support our mission could be doubled!

$5,000 Whitaker Bank Early Giving Match

Thanks to the generous support of Whitaker Bank, donations made during the week of early giving will be matched $1 for $1 until the $5,000 match pool is exhausted. This means we could begin the official day of giving with $10,000 to support survivors!

Grow Your Gift on Tuesday, December 2

If you’d rather wait until the official day to make your gift, many matches and prizes are available from morning to midnight. You can find them here. We will also be sharing this information on our social media so be sure to like us on Facebook and Instagram to see our posts!

Bluegrass Gives is hosted by the Blue Grass Community Foundation in partnership with Smiley Pete Publishing. The day offers an incredible opportunity for our community to remind survivors that we care about their safety and well-being.

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Healing Together

A Place Where Animals Belong

Pets are more than companions for many survivors. They’re lifelines. Abusers often exploit this bond, using threats or harm to animals as a way to maintain control.

For those seeking safety from intimate partner abuse, leaving a beloved pet behind can feel impossible. That’s why our 40-acre farm is a place where survivors and their animals can heal together until it is safe to begin again.

A few animals on our farm never leave because we are their forever home. Horses Solo and Saucy graze in quiet pastures, waiting at the fence for children coming home from school.

Farm cats wander the summer flower rows, dodging attempts to capture them in photos, and find refuge in their handmade winter condos when the temperatures cool.

Other animal friends drop in for a visit from time to time. We love when service puppies-in-training hang out on the porch to practice their social skills. Past visits from Timber’s Grateful Companions, Mater the goat, and his sister Itty Bitty Betty have made hard days lighter.

Survivors and animals deserve to rediscover what safety and connection truly feel like. Because love, in all its forms, is healing.

Forever Part of Our Healing Home

We dedicate this issue to three animal friends  gone too soon. Morris, our first property cat, passed years ago and today serves as our unofficial mascot. Boone, our neighbor dog, never belonged to us but found a special place in our hearts with his regular visits. JB, the beloved horse of Lyndsay, a longtime advocate in the mission, lived with us on the farm for many years. His hooves may rest, but his spirit still runs deep.

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Pawsitive Partners

Protection & Care

Lexington-Fayette Animal Care and Control is on a mission to protect the health and safety of the community and its animals.

“We are privileged to have partnered with GreenHouse17 for the last decade to ensure animals in difficult circumstances remain safe and well cared for,” shares Ashley Browning, Assistant Chief. “No one should have to choose between their safety and the safety of their pet.”

Research finds up to 40% of survivors delay leaving an abuser because they are unable to take their pets with them. Thanks to community-coordinated care, survivors in central Kentucky have options.

“Our daily focus is to provide resources and services that help pets stay in the care of their owners. Our partnership with GreenHouse17 is an extension of that goal”, explains Ashley. “If that means a brief stay for an animal in our care, or a low-cost vaccine, we are happy to help.”

Did you know that Kentucky orders of protection can also include pets? Coercion, control, or revenge directed against a pet to control a spouse or dating partner is considered domestic violence.

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Helping Lexington Pets

The mission of the Lexington Pet Pantry is to keep pets with their families. The group provides essential pet food and supplies to those in need.

Founder Amber Litwiller reached out earlier this year, and our partnership began. “If you’re in a crisis, you don’t want to lose something that helps you,” says Amber “Keeping people with their pets is what we’re all about.”

The self-serve pantry at our emergency shelter is stocked regularly with pet food and supplies for residents, helping survivors care for their animals while they focus on healing.

Pet Pantry volunteers also stock public self-serve pantries at the Living Arts and Science Center and Blue Stallion Brewing Company.

“The shared health of people, animals, and our environment is all interconnected,” adds Amber.

For many survivors, their animal companions are also victims of abuse. Although the shelter is not a good fit for every pet, our advocates provide support and resources for animals so survivors can find safety without worry.

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Speak My Name

Each year we speak the names of those killed by current or former intimate partners in Kentucky. We speak their names to remember lives taken, call for an end to the abuse, and recommit ourselves to the mission. 

Please join us in speaking these names aloud in memorial.

Crystal Rogers, age 35
Mary Thomas, age 77
Isabella Mae Walsh, age 20
Arica Brown, age 53
Kadesha Burch, age 31
Evelyn Vega-Belton, age 43
Heather Baldwin, age 30
Isabella Verbaere, age 15
Cicara James, age 31
Jessica Campbell-Hyde, age 44
Dixieana Brainard, age 20
Kimberly Letner, age 50
Bryant Johnson, age 35
Katherine Gomez, age 33
Elmer Eldridge, age 24
Lapriest Maddox, age 51
Latasha White, age 49
Hayley Davidson, age 28
SonTia Simmons, age 26
Tristan Smith, age 15
Estelle Shackleford, age 54

Nineteen of these victims were killed by gun violence. The youngest victim this year was only a teenager, and the oldest was age 77. We hold the victims’ children, family, and friends who loved them in our hearts.

Speak My Name is an annual project of ZeroV, Kentucky’s state coalition of domestic violence programs. 

Speak My Name includes the names of those killed by current or former intimate partners between September of the previous year and August of the current year. ZeroV attempts to track domestic violence-related homicides in Kentucky through various sources such as reports from our member programs and news articles. The method is far from perfect. Please be aware that most reports come at the beginning of the law enforcement/court process, at which point an individual has been charged with homicide. We make no representation of the outcome of these cases or whether the charged individual is found guilty of criminal activity.

You are not alone.

Please call our 24-hour crisis hotline to speak with a Certified Domestic Violence Advocate at 800-544-2022

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Tanya’s Story

“In the beginning of our marriage, he was very abusive and controlling.”

The physical abuse had ended, but the mental, emotional, and financial abuse continued. I took off numerous times and went back because it was familiar.

I just woke up one morning and was like, I can’t do this anymore. I have custody of my grandson and packed his things. My best friend came and got me.

I was on the verge of going back home, but my daughter had a co-worker who told her about this place. Thank God GreenHouse17 picked up the phone and had a bed for me.

I was there from October to the end of March. They helped me balance my biggest issues and taught me boundaries. I’ve always said that I was a caretaker, but sometimes people can abuse that.

There was another young lady at the shelter, and we became really close. She asked if I’d be willing to keep her dog, Roscoe. He’s been with me ever since.

I’m so glad I was able to keep him. I didn’t know if I could do it because I’ve never owned a pet before. I’ve cried with Roscoe, talked to him.

Transitioning into my new apartment was scary. Every little noise made me think, is someone here with me? I don’t know what I would have done without this fella. Emotionally, he is my everything.

Don’t give up hope. Just reach out. It doesn’t matter your situation—there’s always help. I know what it’s like to be afraid. It’s hard, I get it. But you can do it.

This is only part of Tanya’s story, in her own words, shared with permission.

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Purple Thursday

October 16 is Purple Thursday, a national day to show support for survivors during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Participation is easy. Make plans to wear purple t-shirts, sweaters, pants, ties, and shoes on Thursday, October 16 to identify yourself as an advocate for survivors and call for an end to the abuse.

Post your purple selfie on social media to let friends and family know why this mission is important to you. Tag us in your posts, so we can celebrate your participation!

(And if you live or work in Lexington, double the awareness! Wear your purple again on October 23 for the Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention Coalition’s Purple Thursday event.)

Why is Purple Thursday Important? 

Purple Thursday is important to our mission because raising awareness is an essential part of working to end the cycle of abuse. It’s a day to identify yourself as an advocate and raise awareness.

Imagine being told no one will believe you. That you’re unworthy of better. Being gaslighted and wondering if you’re to blame.

But on this day you see purple at your workplace, the grocery store, the soccer game, on social media. You see friends, family, and strangers demonstrating they will believe you. That you’re worthy. Showing they will support you.

Why Purple? 

The color purple is a symbol of peace, courage, survival, honor, and dedication to ending violence. It’s believed the color’s connection to our mission might have begun during women’s suffrage.   

In 1978, thousands of advocates for women’s equal rights wore purple when they marched in Washington, D.C. Today the color honors this history, survivors of abuse, and those lives that have been ended too early.   

Download the Purple Thursday flyer to promote the day in your community.

This is what a safe community looks like.

Let’s start conversations and be ready with resources. Think about why you’re participating in the day. What will you say when someone asks you why this mission matters to you? Write down our 24-hour Crisis Hotline, so you’re prepared if someone asks for help. That number is 800-544-2022.

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