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Speak My Name

Each year we speak the names of those killed by current or former intimate partners in Kentucky. We speak their names to remember lives taken, call for an end to the abuse, and recommit ourselves to the mission. 

Please join us in speaking these names aloud in memorial.

Crystal Rogers, age 35
Mary Thomas, age 77
Isabella Mae Walsh, age 20
Arica Brown, age 53
Kadesha Burch, age 31
Evelyn Vega-Belton, age 43
Heather Baldwin, age 30
Isabella Verbaere, age 15
Cicara James, age 31
Jessica Campbell-Hyde, age 44
Dixieana Brainard, age 20
Kimberly Letner, age 50
Bryant Johnson, age 35
Katherine Gomez, age 33
Elmer Eldridge, age 24
Lapriest Maddox, age 51
Latasha White, age 49
Hayley Davidson, age 28
SonTia Simmons, age 26
Tristan Smith, age 15
Estelle Shackleford, age 54

Nineteen of these victims were killed by gun violence. The youngest victim this year was only a teenager, and the oldest was age 77. We hold the victims’ children, family, and friends who loved them in our hearts.

Speak My Name is an annual project of ZeroV, Kentucky’s state coalition of domestic violence programs. 

Speak My Name includes the names of those killed by current or former intimate partners between September of the previous year and August of the current year. ZeroV attempts to track domestic violence-related homicides in Kentucky through various sources such as reports from our member programs and news articles. The method is far from perfect. Please be aware that most reports come at the beginning of the law enforcement/court process, at which point an individual has been charged with homicide. We make no representation of the outcome of these cases or whether the charged individual is found guilty of criminal activity.

You are not alone.

Please call our 24-hour crisis hotline to speak with a Certified Domestic Violence Advocate at 800-544-2022

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Purple Thursday

October 16 is Purple Thursday, a national day to show support for survivors during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Participation is easy. Make plans to wear purple t-shirts, sweaters, pants, ties, and shoes on Thursday, October 16 to identify yourself as an advocate for survivors and call for an end to the abuse.

Post your purple selfie on social media to let friends and family know why this mission is important to you. Tag us in your posts, so we can celebrate your participation!

(And if you live or work in Lexington, double the awareness! Wear your purple again on October 23 for the Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention Coalition’s Purple Thursday event.)

Why is Purple Thursday Important? 

Purple Thursday is important to our mission because raising awareness is an essential part of working to end the cycle of abuse. It’s a day to identify yourself as an advocate and raise awareness.

Imagine being told no one will believe you. That you’re unworthy of better. Being gaslighted and wondering if you’re to blame.

But on this day you see purple at your workplace, the grocery store, the soccer game, on social media. You see friends, family, and strangers demonstrating they will believe you. That you’re worthy. Showing they will support you.

Why Purple? 

The color purple is a symbol of peace, courage, survival, honor, and dedication to ending violence. It’s believed the color’s connection to our mission might have begun during women’s suffrage.   

In 1978, thousands of advocates for women’s equal rights wore purple when they marched in Washington, D.C. Today the color honors this history, survivors of abuse, and those lives that have been ended too early.   

Download the Purple Thursday flyer to promote the day in your community.

This is what a safe community looks like.

Let’s start conversations and be ready with resources. Think about why you’re participating in the day. What will you say when someone asks you why this mission matters to you? Write down our 24-hour Crisis Hotline, so you’re prepared if someone asks for help. That number is 800-544-2022.

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Survivors and their children deserve to feel safe in their homes and communities. We can all help make safety visible, real, and possible.

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PEACE PUMPKINS

Look for purple pumpkins at businesses in the Lexington-Fayette area. Peace Pumpkins are a project of the Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention Coalition. Each pumpkin includes a QR-code that links to information about services.

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CARTOBER

Cartober is a month to share how your used vehicle donation can support nonprofit organizations. We partner with CARS to accept donations of cars, trucks, motorcycles, RVs, and boats to support survivors. Learn more at this link.

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DANVILLE & BOYLE COUNTY 

Get a purple slushie at Danville Smoothies, 905 Hustonville Road. Grab a coffee and Domestic Violence Awareness Month stickers at The Hub Coffee House & Cafe, 236 West Main Street. Browse the Domestic Violence Awareness Month book display at Plaid Elephant Bookstore, 116 North 3rd Street. Find the Domestic Violence Awareness Month reading list at Boyle County Library, 307 West Broadway Street. Notice the Boyle County Courthouse fountain is purple to show support for survivors and raise awareness about services.

Tuesday, September 30
SHINE PURPLE

Shine purple for survivors! Boyle County is hosting a domestic violence awareness event from 5 pm to 7 pm in Constitution Square 105 E Walnut Street Danville. There will be resource tables, kids’ activities, and food trucks. Thank you to Lowe’s for donating purple light bulbs to shine purple throughout the town.

Wednesday, October 1
DVAM AWARENESS AT CENTRE

Centre College is hosting a domestic violence awareness event from 11 am to 1 pm at Campus Center – 600 W Walnut St. Danville.

Sunday, October 5
PAINT WARS

Alpha Chi Omega and Sigma Nu at the University of Kentucky host Paint Wars in October to raise money to support survivors. The event starts at 6 pm at the William H. Pieratt Student Recreation Field.

Monday, October 6
DINE OUT AT SEDONA TAPHOUSE PALOMAR

Enjoy 50% off eligible meals at the Palomar location of Sedona Taphouse in Lexington. For each charity entrée sold, Sedona Taphouse will donate $1 to the mission. Learn more.

Monday, October 6
TRAUMA-INFORMED YOGA CLASS

Begins at 5 pm in Danville. For more information and location, call or text Kris at 859-327-6208.

Tuesday, October 7
PEACEFUL YOGA ON THE LAWN

As part of Centre College’s DVAM programming, an outdoor yoga event will be hosted. Community partners will also be present to share resources with students. The event is from 6 pm to 7:30 pm at the Lawn at Centre College.

Thursday, October 9
BCTC WELLNESS FEST

Bluegrass Community and Technical College is hosting a Wellness Fest with community resources for students. The event is from 11 am to 1 pm at their campus at 500 Newtown Pike in Lexington.

Friday, October 10
[VIRTUAL] CONVERSATIONS WITH COMMISSIONERS

A [Virtual] Conversation with the Kentucky Commission on Women discussing domestic violence in Kentucky. Hosted by Ann Perkins, Safe Harbor Executive Director, with guests Peggy Patterson, U.S Magistrate Judge (retired), and Darlene Thomas, GreenHouse17 Executive Director. You can watch the live stream AT 12:30 p.m. on the Commission’s YouTube channel.

Saturday, October 11
ROCK RELIEF

The band Canvas and the Cellar Bar & Grille at Lansdowne will host Rock Relief, a day of amazing local music to raise awareness and funds for survivors. Learn more.

Sunday, October 12
FAITH & BLUE DONATION DRIVE

We’re grateful to be the benefiting charity of the Faith and Blue Community Giveback hosted by the Lexington Police Department. Join us at Grace Baptist Church, 811 Bryan Avenue from Noon to 2 pm. Learn more about Faith & Blue on their website at this link.

Monday, October 13
DINE OUT AT SEDONA TAPHOUSE PALOMAR

Enjoy 50% off eligible meals at the Palomar location of Sedona Taphouse in Lexington. For each charity entrée sold, Sedona Taphouse will donate $1 to the mission. Learn more.

Monday, October 13
GROUNDING TECHNIQUES CLASS

Begins at 5 pm in Danville. For more information and location, call or text Kris at 859-327-6208.

Thursday, October 16
PURPLE THURSDAY

A national day of wearing purple to identify yourself as an advocate for survivors! Put on purple shirts, pants, ties, and more to show your support and raise awareness and call for an end to domestic violence.

Monday, October 20
DINE OUT AT SEDONA TAPHOUSE PALOMAR

Enjoy 50% off eligible meals at the Palomar location of Sedona Taphouse in Lexington. For each charity entrée sold, Sedona Taphouse will donate $1 to the mission. Learn more.

Monday, October 20
SAFETY PLANNING & DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EVIDENCE DOCUMENTATION WORKSHOP

Begins at 5 pm in Danville.  For more information and location, call or text Kris at 859-327-6208. 

Wednesday, October 22
PROCLAMATION SIGNING

Join representatives of domestic violence programs at the Capitol Education Center in Frankfort for the signing of the Domestic Violence Awareness Month proclamation. The event is at 10 am and open to the public.

Thursday, October 23
DSVPC & UK VIP CENTER PURPLE THURSDAY EVENT

If you’re in Lexington, double the awareness! Put on your purple again for the month’s second Purple Thursday with the Lexington-Fayette Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention Coalition and UK VIP Center.

Thursday, October 23
RISE UP: A SURVIVORS TRIBUTE

The Fayette County Sheriff will host the annual domestic violence vigil in Lexington at 5:30 pm, outside in the Robert F. Stephens Courthouse Plaza, 150 N. Limestone.

Friday, October 24
CANDLELIGHT WALK & VIGIL

Begins at 6 pm from the Boyle County Courthouse, 321 West Main Street. For more information, call or text Kris at 859-327-6208.

Monday, October 27
DINE OUT AT SEDONA TAPHOUSE PALOMAR

Enjoy 50% off eligible meals at the Palomar location of Sedona Taphouse in Lexington. For each charity entrée sold, Sedona Taphouse will donate $1 to the mission. Learn more.


Safety for Survivors

Our hotline is answered 24/7 by Certified Domestic Violence Advocates. Together, safety plans can be developed that meet the unique needs of survivors and their children. Advocates can assist in finding emergency shelter, accompaniment to court proceedings, share information on support groups, or just be there to listen. Please call us if you or someone you know is being harmed at 800-544-2022.

Being a Safe Person

You can be a safe person for friends and family who are being abused. Educate yourself about intimate partner abuse, believe the stories they tell you, and listen more than you speak. Say you are really worried and ask if they have a safety plan. Suggest they call our hotline to speak with an advocate. You can call us, too, and learn how to offer support. 

Safety in our Community

Create safe workplaces. Ask if your workplace has a policy on intimate partner abuse. If they don’t, share toolkits from It’s Time Lexington with your company. Hang our crisis hotline tear-off flyers at your workplace and in community spaces like coffee shops to make safety visible and accessible. 

By taking a stand against intimate partner abuse today, we support survivors and build a community that will be intolerant of violence for generations to come.

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Rock Relief

Make plans to attend Rock Relief to End Domestic Violence on Saturday, October 11 to show your support for survivors.

The band Canvas and the Cellar Bar & Grille will host Rock Relief, a day of amazing local music to raise awareness and funds for survivors of domestic violence.

Performances begin at 1 pm and continue until 11 pm.

Musicians include Ben Lacy, Michael Robinson, Mike Mankel, Hi 5, The Strayz, Alex Leigh, Southern Brothers Band, Flashback, and Canvas.

Entry is free with a suggested donation of gift cards to Walmart, Kroger, Target, etc. for survivors!

Rock Relief is a charitable event organized and founded by Ned Bellau, drummer with the band Canvas. We are grateful for the time and talent of the musicians who are volunteering to perform during the day. Hope to see you there!

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Cartober

Cartober is a month to share how your used vehicle donation can support nonprofit organizations.

We partner with Charitable Adult Rides & Services (CARS) to accept donations of cars, trucks, motorcycles, RVs, and boats to our mission.

Corissa Phillips, our external relations director, recently donated her 23-year-old vehicle to CARS.

“I had an emotional connection to that old blue station wagon. It was the first car I ever purchased as an adult, and both of my kids had driven it at some point during high school and college,” she remembers.

“It had body damage, a broken tire rod, duct tape repairs to the roof. It hadn’t started for more than a year.”  

The CARS donation team assured Corissa the parts had value, so long as she had the title, even if the vehicle wasn’t roadworthy. The towing was free, and she wouldn’t be charged any fees. 

Only a week after initiating the donation, Corissa watched as her old station wagon was towed down the driveway. She was notified it sold at auction two weeks later and $223.47, equal to 70% of the sale, was being transferred to GreenHouse17. 

“I was really surprised my old car sold for that much! I should’ve done this years ago,” she says.

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