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Safe Visits & Exchanges

Community gathered to celebrate the expansion of children’s safe exchange and visitation to Boyle, Garrard, Lincoln, and Mercer counties.

Safe exchange and visitation services reduce risks for violence while encouraging healing and healthy parent-child connections.

Members of Grace Church have generously provided secure space for services to be delivered in the children’s wing of their facility in Danville. A partnership with the Danville Police Department promotes additional safety during service operation hours.

“Our goal is for visitations and exchanges to be predictable, reliable, and positive for children and youth.” says Darlene Thomas, executive director. “Safety and confidentiality are critically important for best practice.”

Remarks from Grace Church Lead Pastor Shane Terrell, Danville Mayor J.H. Atkins, The Honorable Bruce Petrie, and The Honorable Trille Bottom offered evidence for the need and support of the services.

”When we come together as a community, it speaks volumes to survivors and their children,” says Darlene. “It tells survivors and their children that they have value, they have worth, they deserve safety.”

Expansion of services was made possible through the support of Grace Church, Heart of Kentucky United Way, the Hudson-Ellis Fund at Blue Grass Community Foundation, The City of Danville, Boyle County Fiscal Court, Mercer County Fiscal Court, and other state and federal funding.

Up to 30 weekly visits and exchanges can be facilitated from the new Danville service location. Children’s safe exchange and visitation services are also offered in Lexington and Georgetown. Click here for more information.

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Supporting Young Survivors

Fleeing intimate partner abuse is always scary, especially with children or while pregnant.

Beyond the risk for increased violence, parenting survivors leave behind their home and necessities to care for their children. More than a hundred children of survivors live at the shelter each year.

Although every child responds differently to violence, research finds common age-specific responses that advocates can help parents navigate. Services include healing play, school advocacy, and support groups for parents and kids. Advocates also help with birth plans for pregnant survivors and, if asked, are by their sides at the hospital when it’s time.

The International “We Serve” Foundation has contributed almost $20,000 to support the needs of parenting survivors and children. Funds have provided essential items including cribs, beds, car seats, and more.

Dr. Melappalayam Vijayaraghavan, founder of the International “We Serve” Foundation, passed away last year. Dr. Viji’s legacy of kindness and generosity for survivors will be remembered.

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Bags to Riches

Your contribution could help us win $10,000 to support survivors💜

Thank you to J&H Outdoors for choosing us in the first round of this year’s Bags to Riches campaign!  

Through May, opt out of a bag at checkout and receive a chip to support one of four nonprofits. J&H then donates to the nonprofits and whoever has the most chips will move on to a final round held in November and December. The top two nonprofits have a chance to win $10,000! 

First round nonprofits include: GreenHouse17, Justin’s Place, Kentucky Cancer Link, and A Running Start.  

We also have an opportunity for a Double Donation Day. On May 11th, staff members will be at J&H from 10 am to 6 pm to share information and resources. Click here to mark you’re attending on the Facebook event.

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Shannon’s Story

“This was someone I let into my heart, my home, and around my son.”

I met this guy who seemed like a southern gentleman, and he made me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. It truly seemed like a dream come true.

Until it all changed in the blink of an eye. One night, he was going through my messages on my phone without my consent.

When I asked what he was doing and why, his demeanor and tone changed. He turned into a completely different person.

He gets in my face and says, ‘You need to delete all social media right now. You’re not allowed to talk to anybody.’

I was in shock. I wasn’t sure how to respond and said, ‘You need to pack your stuff and leave.’ I wanted to defuse the situation before it got any worse.

Over the next couple of days, we talked on and off. One moment the conversation would be, ‘I’m so sorry, I’ll change,’ and the next he would say, ‘You’re a whore, you’re a slut.”

It only got worse from there. It started with a property complaint, and two officers showed up.

I got a restraining order. That made him even more mad. He told me to watch out because he had connections that would come after me.

He was also texting my family members and reaching out to my friends on Facebook, saying none of this was his fault. He placed all the blame on me.

He got ahold of my child’s father. They collaborated to file an emergency protective removal order, trying to take my son away from me.

We had to go to court multiple times, and everything got dismissed. The judge ordered my abuser to get help and mandated he take classes.

I still can’t say I feel safe, but it does get better. My chapter ends with my advocates staying by my side and guiding me through all of this.

I hope that my story will help just one person. What scares me the most is the unknown and the thought of this happening to somebody else.

I want to share my story. The more we talk about our experiences and share our stories, the more we get to spread awareness.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Reach out before it’s too late.

This is only part of Shannon’s story, in her own words, shared with permission.

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Social Media Ambassador

Be a social media ambassador for the mission to end intimate partner abuse 💜

Sharing content about our mission is an effective and meaningful way to volunteer your time and support survivors.

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React to our posts, comment, share, and tag us in your posts! Interactions help our content reach more people.

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Each blog post on our website includes links to share the information on social media. A personal note from you with the shared links helps make a connection with your friends.

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We also welcome features and reviews of our Handmade by Survivors products and other social enterprises on our farm.

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Cards of Encouragement

A few kind words can make a difficult day feel better. Writing notes of encouragement is a meaningful way to support survivors. 

You can write a couple of cards or a bundle of many cards. This makes for a lovely way for your community, faith, or work group to support the mission. In addition to blank cards with encouraging notes, we also welcome cards for birthdays, Mother’s Day, and other holidays. 

TIPS & IDEAS
  • Use a general salutation: Hello, Hi there, and Dear Survivor are good options.
  • Start with a sentence about why you’re writing the card:  This must be such a difficult time for you, and I wanted to let you know someone cares.
  • You don’t have to write a lot. Just a couple of lines can make a difference. Lean into celebrating the survivor’s strength and courage.
  • Close with a message of hope – maybe something like this: May your tomorrows be safer, brighter, and full of hope and possibilities.
  • Sign with your first name or first + last name, but please don’t include your address or phone number.

General messaging about prayer, faith, and spirituality can be meaningful. But please avoid including specific scripture or the promotion of a specific religion in your cards. Please also ensure your personal or work email, telephone, and mailing address are not included on the cards/envelopes.

FINAL STEP

When your cards are ready, bundle them up and mail to address below or send a note to Hallie to request driving directions to deliver the cards to our shelter. 

GreenHouse17
ATTN: Community Engagement
PO Box 55190
Lexington, KY 40555-5190 

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Valentine’s Day is our Anniversary

Federal designation officially naming our organization a nonprofit entity arrived on February 14, 2005.

We’re celebrating with a series of Valentine’s Day cards that you can share with friends, family, and partners on social media to raise awareness about healthy relationships.

Visit our social media pages to share these cards with someone special. Or just click or tap on an image below to send one today.

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2023 Farm Wrap Up

This is a special blog contribution written by Hattie Nunley, farm advocate.

It feels like this past growing season went by in the blink of an eye.

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We saw growth in our farm programming to promote nature-based healing, with over 90 farm-related support group activities offered to survivors. These activities included crafts using dried flowers, healthy cooking workshops using homegrown fruits and vegetables, and trauma-informed yoga beneath our farm pavilion.  

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Paid work opportunities were also made available to shelter residents once more, with 24 residents earning supplemental income by working on the farm throughout the year. We are so proud to be able to support survivors financially through our farm stipend project and provide a safe, peaceful environment for healing and personal growth.  

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Our farm-to-table dining continued this year, with a wide array of farm-fresh produce used in nutritious meals. Heirloom tomatoes, sweet peppers, zucchini, potatoes, onions, apples, and winter squash were just some of the many fruits and vegetables that found their way into our shelter kitchen to help nourish the families that were with us in 2023.  

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Stay tuned for updates on what we have in store for the 2024 growing season! 

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Martin Luther King Jr. Day

Community coming together in honor of Martin Luther King Jr.

Today staff members are attending the annual MLK Holiday Celebration and joining the Freedom March to honor Martin Luther King Jr.’s legacy. The program after the march includes keynote speaker Rev. Kevin W. Cosby, Ph.D. and Peabo Bryson performing with youth choral groups Uniting Voices Chicago and Uniting Voices Lexington.  

We’re also excited to welcome back our former AmeriCorps VISTA, Carla, with a group from her church, Redeemed Christian Church of God Open Door Parish. Their Martin Luther King Jr. Day of Service includes organizing the supplies in the basement to prepare for our next Shop & Share event in February.  

We are honored to attend the MLK Holiday Celebration and are thankful for all RCCG Open Door Parish has done to support survivors 💜 

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Stalking Awareness Month

January 2024 is the 20th annual National Stalking Awareness Month (NSAM)

Stalking often co-occurs with intimate partner violence and can be an indicator of other forms of violence.  

All stalkers can be dangerous. Intimate partner stalkers, compared to acquaintance and stranger stalkers, are more likely to threaten and physically assault the victim and their friends and family.  

Did you know stalking can include these behaviors?  

  • Repeated phone calls, texts, or communication on your social media  
  • Sending unwanted gifts to your home or work  
  • Threatening you or your loved ones  
  • Following you or watching you from a distance  
  • Digital harassment, such as tracking your location through an app or showing up at a place you’ve checked into online  

Learn more about the crime and ways to plan for your safety:  

National Day of Action for Stalking Awareness 

SPARC is launching the first National Day of Action for Stalking Awareness on January 18th 

On January 18, 2003 Peggy Klinke was murdered by her stalker, her ex-boyfriend. 

Learn more about Peggy’s story here. [Trigger warning: The video talks about stalking, murder, and includes clips of Peggy’s 911 call] 

“Peggy had a sparkling personality and would light up a room. As the stalking continued and continued, we saw that shine fade.” – Debbie Riddle, Stalking Activist, Peggy’s sister, and founder of National Stalking Awareness Month

SPARC is bringing back the sparkle on the anniversary of Peggy’s murder and you can help spread awareness.  

On January 18th

  • Post a photo on social media wearing sparkly or shiny clothing or pose in front of sparkly decor
  • Tag SPARC – @followuslegally on Facebook and Instagram
  • Use the hashtags #SparkleAgainstStalking #NSAM2024 #NSAMDayofAction 

Learn more.

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