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Social Work Month

The Time is Right for Social Work

It’s Social Work Month! The National Association of Social Workers (NASW) is celebrating in March with the theme “The Time is Right for Social Work.” This theme underscores the contributions social workers have made to this nation for more than a century and how their services continue to be needed today.  

This annual campaign is a time to inform the public, policymakers, and legislators about the services social workers provide in an array of sectors – including nonprofits like ours, mental health centers, schools, and community centers.  

People become social workers because they have a strong desire to help others and make our society a better place to live for all. They have helped drive significant, positive changes in our nation.   

Social workers such as social reformer Jane Addams, former Labor Secretary Frances Perkins, and civil rights leaders Dorothy Height, Whitney Young and Ida B. Wells have pushed for voting rights, equal rights, Social Security, unemployment insurance, and other programs.  

Social workers touch millions of lives each day and it is likely one at some time will assist you, a family member, or a friend.  

We couldn’t be more grateful for the good work that social workers do for survivors, our community, and our world. Be sure to thank a social worker for their hard work and dedication! They make the world a better place.

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Support Groups

Surviving intimate partner abuse is a traumatic experience and it helps to have a safe place to talk about it. 

Support groups offer a safe and caring space so you don’t have to heal alone. You may not have many friends or family you can turn to for support, or maybe you’re having a difficult time trusting or relying on them right now. We know everyone’s story is different, but sometimes sharing with others who have been through similar experiences can offer comfort. 

Some benefits of support groups include the following:  

  • Feeling less lonely or isolated  
  • Talking openly and honestly about feelings  
  • Connecting with others who have shared experiences  
  • Improving coping skills  
  • Staying motivated   
  • Improving hopefulness  
  • Receiving practical feedback  
  • Learning about new resources 

It’s important to note the difference between a support group and group therapy. The term therapy usually means an intervention related to a physical or mental medical diagnosis. Support groups are gatherings of people with shared experiences. Our groups are facilitated by a Certified Domestic Violence Advocate.  


Our Support Groups
 

Most of our groups focus on common survivor experiences, but some focus on specific topics, such as co-parenting or finance matters. Both in-person and online meetings are available. 

You are not alone. It can be a struggle to talk about your story. Join a community of people who have experienced similar life events. You will get through this and you will heal.

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21 Years

Takiyrah’s Story

“It’s not over, but I also know I’m not afraid anymore.”

I was established in Chicago. I had my own childcare facility, condo, and car. I was in college at the time and wasn’t into the whole dating scene.

He was super persistent and very handsome. He just wore me down. It was a typical relationship in the beginning. But there were little red flags.

He was very jealous. I just brushed it off because in the African American community, having a jealous boyfriend is a win. Then he started popping up at my house at 3 in the morning—popping up at my job.

I told him it’s over but found out I was pregnant. He came to my house and said, “You’re stuck with me until the child is 18.”

When I had my daughter, I moved an hour away. It was my first attempt to get away from him. Everything settled, but I began to feel like somebody was watching me.

Then I saw him one day. It was like seeing a ghost. He was living in a building across from mine. He could see my bedroom light and when I came or left.

He started showing up at my apartment. I called the police so many times. I would yell and scream. No one would help, even though my nose is busted and my eyes are black.

By the grace of God, I finally got an EPO and moved to Lexington. On lunch at work, I met this girl who told me about this place. A conversation with a stranger can change your whole life.

I got a call one day at my hotel. It was him. GreenHouse17 moved me to a different hotel and said we have a room at shelter.

They helped me heal physically and mentally. You don’t have to have all the answers. There’s still trauma and pain there. I know that I have a team of people. If I need anything, they will support me and my children. It’s not over, but I also know I’m not afraid anymore.

This is the first time I can tell my story and not cry. I want to show my son that’s not how women are treated. I want my daughter to grow up and recognize red flags. I will not let my children be victims. My strength, my faith, is about breaking the cycle – not just for my family, but for any woman and any woman of color.

This is only part of Takiyrah’s story, in her own words, shared with her permission.

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Alltech Partnership

“I am grateful Alltech was willing to listen, hear, and create solutions for our organization.”

An exciting partnership with Alltech recently launched to expand nature-based opportunities for survivors of intimate partner abuse. Jake Taylor was hired by Alltech for assignment at our shelter and farm during the next two years. He will be working alongside our staff, with the support of Alltech leadership, to develop a plan for the next phase of the farm.

Recognizing the capriciousness of grants and other funding, we want to assist this vital organization in their efforts to build a more sustainable revenue source through their handmade goods,” said Mrs. Deirdre Lyons, co-founder and director of corporate image, design and construction at Alltech.

Vegetable harvests from the farm offset food costs at the shelter, while revenue from flowers and handmade goods cover production costs, but full operation still relies on grant funding.

Jake is charged with helping to map a plan for long-term sustainability, eventually providing living-wage social enterprise employment for survivors—in a safe, trauma-informed workplace.

Business is my education, but what I’m passionate about is serving others and helping folks in the community. This is the perfect opportunity to marry my experiences and my passion to a position,” shares Jake.

I am grateful Alltech was willing to listen, hear, and create solutions for our organization,” says Darlene Thomas, executive director.

Mrs. Lyons adds, “It is our hope that this unique partnership will ultimately help lead to the life-changing support of more survivors and their families.”

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Our 17th Anniversary 💜

It’s our 17th anniversary! Federal designation officially naming our organization a nonprofit entity arrived on February 14, 2005. 

Services had begun a year from the old YWCA property, while earlier while matters of governance and partnerships were addressed. Darlene, our executive director, reflects on the night when the decision was made to move to our current location.

“I stood at the back door of an empty building on 40-acres of rural farmland in central Kentucky.  The grass and trees seemed to glow in the golden light of the setting sun. Feelings of safety and possibility warmed my soul as the sun lowered in the sky. 

Although a move was imminent, I was struggling with the decision to relocate our organization so far from downtown Lexington, Kentucky. How will survivors stay connected with community service organizations in the city? Can we engage supporters of the mission from this country location?

I imagined a small group of survivors sitting on the back porch and sharing their stories as day peacefully transitioned to night. This sunset was giving me answers to questions I had been asking for weeks. Before the light dipped below the horizon, the decision was made. This building would become our new home.” 

Although much has changed in the years since the move to our current beautiful 40-acre property in rural Fayette County, hope and possibility continue to inform our mission. 

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Looking back on 17 Years

It’s our anniversary! Federal designation officially naming our organization a nonprofit entity arrived on February 14, 2005. Today we’re looking back on the past 17 years and recommitting to our mission until the violence ends.

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Anniversary Reflections on the Farm

It’s our 17th anniversary! Federal designation officially naming our organization a nonprofit entity arrived on February 14, 2005. We interviewed Darlene Thomas, our executive director, for her reflections on the farm’s history through years.

“While settling into the new shelter 17 years ago, we began to consider how to integrate the land with services for survivors. Maybe equine therapy or a herd of sheep? Although these options weren’t a good fit, early dialogues confirmed the land must complement existing traditional services for survivors.

Local and national conversations were beginning to explore topics related to food deserts, local food production, and social entrepreneurship. We convened community experts to discuss how our land could be used to address these issues.The commitment of staff and resources to achieve this integration would be substantial, so we started small with only a few box gardens of seasonal herbs and vegetables for meal prep in shelter.

We honed our gardening skills and observed interest in the effort over the next two seasons. Consultations with arborists and farmers informed our land use plan, and local garden clubs provided native cuttings and seeds for planting. A generous grant from Grow Appalachia allowed us to hire a Farm Advocate to manage the farm and programming. This early financial commitment allowed us to leverage additional support from United Way, Kentucky Utilities, and Toyota Motor Manufacturing, Kentucky.”

Listening & Responding

We thought vegetable production would be our primary focus, but the community inspired a new unexpected direction for the farm.

“A few years ago, survivors and staff had planted a small garden of flowers. Kentucky Proud admired the flowers during a visit to the farm and asked if we might put together some small table bouquets for their kick-off breakfast at the State Fair.

Soon after that event, calls and emails requesting bouquets of our flowers for centerpieces overwhelmed us. The expansion of our flower production became a priority. Around this same time, individuals and private foundations stepped in to fund the renovation of an outbuilding on the back of our farm program for much-needed space to fulfill flower orders and facilitate workshops for survivors.

John Paul and Eloise DeJoria, with friends from JP’s Peace, Love & Happiness Foundation, visited the farm to learn more about our program. That visit inspired a generous donation to begin renovation of the outbuilding. Don and Mira Ball provided additional generous support to complete the project.

Special attention was given to the renovation to meet certified commercial kitchen requirements. Today, this building is the hub for production of value-added products from the farm, including lip balms, soaps, other Handmade By Survivors products.”

Promising Results

A federal grant awarded to the University of Kentucky Center for Research on Violence Against Women to conduct multi-year research on the farm’s effectiveness recently concluded. Publication of the research outcomes is expected soon.

“Stories and statistics tell us the farm-based programs we have developed are effective. Those few early box gardens have grown to almost 7,000 square feet of cultivated land, and approximately 60% of shelter residents directly participate in at least one nature-based program during their stay with us. But I believe all survivors living at our shelter benefit from indirect engagement with the farm. Even just sitting on the porch watching the sunset or listening to the rain can make a difference.”

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KFW’s Art Meets Activism Grant Recipient 

The Art Meets Activism grant from the Kentucky Foundation for Women will allow us to provide trauma-informed artmaking with survivors of intimate partner abuse. 

This Art Meets Activism grant will provide an advocate on staff with training and certification in therapeutic artmaking. We’ll be able to offer art-based support groups for residents at shelter, as well as community-based workshops for survivors receiving supportive services outside of shelter, with an informed focus on healing. Open studio sessions will also be available for self-guided art.  

The goal of these activities is to help survivors heal emotionally. Similar to the nature-based healing approach of our farm, trauma-informed art-making may increase survivors’ confidence, leading to improved feelings of self-worth and well-being. Through group sessions, there is the opportunity to become more connected to community, ultimately reducing the frequent feelings of isolation some survivors experience.    

We are honored to receive this grant and be among so many inspirational women and organizations. Here is a full list of fellow grant winners 

About KFW 

The Kentucky Foundation for Women is a private foundation formed in 1985 by Louisville writer Sallie Bingham.  Its mission is to promote positive social change by supporting varied feminist expression in the arts. 

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Celebrating Martin Luther King Jr. Day

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.”

As we honor and celebrate the legacy of Martin Luther King, Jr, these words written by him decades ago continue to inspire and make a meaningful connection to our mission. 

“I have the audacity to believe that peoples everywhere can have three meals a day for their bodies, education and culture for their minds, and dignity, equality, and freedom for their spirits.”

His words call us to personal and social action that acknowledges racism and prejudice persist in our lives, community, and nation.

“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”

We are reminded that freedom of spirit is tied to every part of our being and that long-term sustainable change is possible.

“We shall overcome because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.”

As this new year continues to unfold, may we continue to serve and commit to justice with the same peace and compassion of today. Let us remember that to serve is to commit to change — and to change we must heal.

Continue to educate yourself.

Our book recommendation is Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America by Ibram X. Kendi

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