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Evolving Terminology – Intimate Partner Abuse

Intimate partner abuse has been called many things over the years.

From battered women to domestic violence, as the understanding of intimate partner abuse has evolved, so has the terminology used to describe it.  

Changing Terminology 

The phrase domestic violence gained wider recognition in the 1970s with the Battered Women’s Movement, or Domestic Violence Movement.  

Historically the term domestic violence implied: 

  • Physical violence 
  • Violence against women in heterosexual relationships 
  • Residing in the same home 
  • Domestic issue 

The legal definition of domestic violence or domestic abuse includes intimate partners but can also refer to family violence, such as violence between siblings or abuse of an elderly parent. 

We know intimate partner abuse can happen in any type of relationship regardless of gender, age, or gender identity. It can be more than just violence, including emotional and financial abuse. 

Our Terminology 

As an organization, we prefer to use the term ‘intimate partner abuse.’ This distinguishes the focus of our mission and avoids historic assumptions common to the term domestic violence.  

Use of the word “abuse” rather than “violence” conveys that one person made the decision to harm another person. 

Academic research and many who advocate for survivors often use the abbreviation IPV for intimate partner violence. But our mission is still a topic that isn’t talked about publicly, and too often is still considered a private matter.  

We say the words because they need to be heard, considered, and talked about. 

Call us anytime.

24-HOUR HOTLINE 800.544.2022

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History of LUNAFEST Lexington

The national LUNAFEST is coming to an end so we’re bringing the event to Lexington one last time!  

To celebrate the past fourteen years of hosting the traveling film festival in Lexington, we’re reflecting on past events. 

LUNAFEST Lexington has raised more than $100,000 to support services for survivors of intimate partner abuse over the years. 

2008 -2009 

LUNAFEST Lexington was held at Talon Winery for the first two years. 

Volunteers Geni Osborn, Pam Holbrook, and staff member Kris Bondarenko, who was an AmeriCorps VISTA at the time, organized the event. 

Kris says, “We still go every year as a family. My son is a film graduate now. I love that the films focus on women’s issues.” 

Judge Lucinda Masterton, then a member of our Board of Directors, purchased the first table of tickets to the event in 2007. 

Helue Shalash, owner of Bak 4 More Salon, began her 10+ years of support for the event. 

2010 – 2012 

The event moved to its longtime home at the Kentucky Theatre, and Dr. Nick Kouns became Marquee Sponsor.  

2013 – 2019 

Raymond James & Associates pledged Marquee Sponsor support for the next several years.  

In addition to the event at Kentucky Theatre, a special second showing was held for students at Transylvania University in 2014. 

Gray Construction hosted a pre-event reception at their downtown office in 2015 for guests to eat and mingle before the show. 

2020 – 2021 

The pandemic required some change during these years. 

As social distancing began to be the norm, we transitioned the event to a virtual approach– LUNAFEST Lexington Safe at Home. Macy’s was our Box Office sponsor. 

After more than a year of social distancing, the world had become weary of virtual events. So, the decision was made to take a break and not hold an event the second year of the pandemic. 

2022 

LUNAFEST Lexington returned in person to the Kentucky Theatre as vaccinations became available and positive cases waned.  

2023 

We received notice from LUNA, the national organizer of the traveling film festival, that the current season would be cut short as the company reconsidered how they could best support women’s issues in the coming years.  

To celebrate our community’s longtime support for the event, we decided to bring the films to Lexington one more time. Although the Kentucky Theatre wasn’t available before the film festival season ends, we are proud to be partnering with the Lyric Theatre and Cultural Arts Center for the last LUNAFEST Lexington on Friday, June 2. 

Geni, a volunteer planner of the first events says, “LUNAFEST Lexington is a great opportunity to support the individuals in our community who benefit from a safe, nurturing place to rebuild their souls and find their inner strengths to chart a new, healthier path for their families. This film festival provides an opportunity to experience fun and thought-provoking short films by and about women. 

This year’s seven short films cover a variety of thought-provoking topics. You’ll laugh, cry, and be inspired. A wonderful night out with friends! 

Films recommended for ages 13+ 

Hope you’ll join us to celebrate the event’s long history of supporting survivors in our community. 

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Admission is free, but registration is required.

Brought to you by LUNA, maker of the whole-nutrition bar for women.

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Retail Partners

Handmade by Survivors products ship to destinations from coast to coast, but our retail partners in Kentucky help promote local sales and mission awareness.

Wild Birds Unlimited in Lexington brings people and nature together, and the store has sold our products for several years.

“The customers love the products. The fact that they’re all natural and handmade fits right into what we do here,” explains Nic Patton, manager. “It’s easy to order, and they usually deliver really quick, which is nice right now with the long lead time for other products.”

Eve Guilbault with Origin Hotel is proud to support both our flower and handmade product enterprises. The hotel is a Summer Flower CSA pickup location and often features flowers from the farm in their restaurant.

“Now, we carry their handmade soaps, bath salts, and lip balms,” she shares. “That way our guests can take home a little piece of GreenHouse17.”

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Community Care

Although the work to end intimate partner abuse always will be difficult, safer tomorrows are possible in a community that cares about survivors.

Thank you to the Hillenmeyer Christmas Shop for donating a tree to shelter each year.

The International ‘We Serve’ Foundation hosted a holiday party at the shelter that provided food and a gift to each resident.

Hamburg Pavilion hosted a variety of free community holiday events including a toy drive for families receiving housing services.

Our community went above and beyond donating gifts for the Holiday Gift Drive!

Thank you to everyone who participated in a charity ride at CYCLEBAR which raised $650.

Broomwagon hosted Cranksgiving – a challenge where bicyclists rode to stores to see who could bring back the most donations for survivors.

Thank you to everyone who made a gift during the GoodGiving Challenge!

The Winchester Elks Lodge supported survivors by hosting a breakfast fundraiser that raised over $2,000.

Lexington’s new campaign – It’s Time – brings awareness to domestic violence with support from community leaders.

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DV8 Kitchen Table Art Contest

We are excited to be participating in the Table Art Contest at DV8 Kitchen on Broadway! Your vote for our table could help us win up to $1500 to support services for survivors.

Eleven central Kentucky nonprofit organizations have partnered with local artists to create art directly on dining room tables at DV8 Kitchen on Broadway in Lexington. Videos from each participating organization are posted on social media, and every “like” on each video counts as a vote for that table.

Kristin Carpenter, an artist on our staff, imagined and painted the beautiful table featuring our mission. She and Reena Martin, our Community Engagement Manager, were interviewed about the meaning behind our table’s design.

Follow this link to the DV8 Facebook Page to like our vido and cast your vote for our table.

While you’re there, be sure to check out other videos featuring the tables and missions of these amazing sobriety organizations in the nonprofit community:

  • Hope Center / Anonymous
  • NAMI / Julie Joseph
  • Chrysalis House / Destinee Austin
  • Voices of Hope / Yolanda Kennison
  • KORE / Dawna Scripps
  • Natalie’s Sisters / Landrie Nickell
  • Shepherd’s House / Michael Harper
  • OWL / Jennifer Bacon
  • Grin Grant / Melody Jackson
  • New Vista / Keaton Young

Winners of the contest will be announced during a special event on April 26 from 5:30 – 8:30 pm at the DV8 Kitchen Broadway location. The restaurant will be open to the public, offering its full menu for dinner and live music. The event is supported by CHI Saint Joseph Health, Truist and LexArts.

Follow this link to cast your vote!

The link above will take you to our video on the DV8 Facebook page.

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Aisley Autumn

Aisley Autumn first connected with us five years ago when she performed at the ribbon-cutting event for the Children’s Safe Exchange and Visitation program.

“I was really moved by your mission,” she shares.

While talking with staff after the event, Aisley shared that she had written a song called “Set Her Free” that was inspired by her mother, a survivor of intimate partner abuse before meeting Aisley’s dad.

“My mom had told me stories about the emotional toll, how trapped she felt, and how freeing it was to escape that dangerous situation.”

Her broken smile and eyes to the floor
She can’t decide what’ll hurt her more
The truth is she’s not alright
But she’ll hide it in another lie

Aisley has since performed “Set Her Free” during two LUNAFEST Lexington events. In 2018, Aisley made her international radio and television debut on WoodSongs Old-Time Radio Hour alongside Chris Barron of the Spin Doctors.

She will graduate from the University of Kentucky this spring with marketing and vocal performance degrees.

Her first single, “Just Be,” was recently released on Spotify, and she is working with a team in Nashville to begin her career as a professional singer-songwriter.

“As a musician, I think about how I can best serve and uplift others through my music. I’m so thankful for your all’s encouragement and support of me as a songwriter. You have genuinely changed my life for the better.”

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Brain Injury Awareness Month

March is Brain Injury Awareness Month.

The University of Kentucky Center for Clinical and Translational Science recently started gathering voluntary data from survivors receiving our services for a study on traumatic brain injuries.

“Brain injury due to intimate partner violence has been regarded as an invisible injury and overlooked public health issue,” explains Dr. Justin Karr, Assistant Professor of Clinical Neuropsychology, Principal Investigator.

“There has been a lot of focus on brain injury in athletes and Veterans, but much less focus on survivors of intimate partner abuse.”

Decreased coordination, inability to concentrate, and lapses in memory are associated with injuries which can make it harder for someone to escape abuse, find safety, and begin to heal. These common symptoms can often be missed during standard evaluations.

“We’re hoping to learn more about the unmet health needs that survivors experience following a brain injury so that we may determine how to best address those needs,” explains Dr. Karr.

Women who are 18-64 years old and have experienced intimate partner violence during the past five years could be eligible for participation in the study. Click here for more information.

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Remembering Lydia

“There is no normal anymore. You’ve got to find the new normal.”

Early last year Lydia Cassady, a devoted mother of two teenagers and a certified clinical medical assistant, was preparing to flee the abuse of her longtime partner and father of her children. He shot and killed her in their home before she could escape.

“She was my younger sister, 12 years younger, so I kind of raised her,” shares Carolyn Hundley. “She was so creative. If you needed something fixed, an outfit made, a wreath for your door, she could do it. Lydia’s middle name was Blanche, so everyone called her Aunt B. She had tons of stuff with bumblebees on it.”

After Lydia’s death, Carolyn received a call from an advocate at our shelter offering support. Darlene, our executive director, attended Lydia’s funeral service, an act of kindness that touched the family.

With every tragic loss, loved ones are left to grieve while trying to understand the violence.

I think with anyone close to these situations, there’s guilt,” shares Carolyn. “My grief group tells me all the time, ‘you can go there, but you can’t stay there.’”

“We find the strength to continue without her by working to help others.”

The Kentucky Coalition Against Domestic Violence estimates domestic homicides related to intimate partner abuse increased 86% last year. Please reach out to our 24-hour hotline if you or someone you know is being abused: 800.544.2022.

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International Women’s Day

#EmbraceEquity

International Women’s Day (IWD), marked annually on March 8, celebrates the achievements of women and calls for women’s equality. This year’s IWD theme is #EmbraceEquity in the workplace, healthcare, sports, and arts.  

Jenny Garrett OBE, an award-winning career coach, trainer, and author, compiled 37 ways to embrace equality for the IWD blog. We’ve chosen a few of our favorites from Jenny’s article and added a couple of our own here:

  1. Flip it. 

Have you heard a woman being referred to as a ‘working mom’? How often do you hear men referred to as a ‘working dad?’ If you can’t flip it, don’t say it.  

  1. ‘One and done’ is not enough.

Recruiting one woman is not enough to make change happen.  

  1. Use an intersectional lens. 

Consider the diversity of women in your community and workspace. What are the experiences of women who don’t identify as white, straight, or without disability? 

  1. Read Invisible Women.

Written by Caroline Criado Perez, this book uses eye-opening data to understand bias in a world designed by men. 

  1. Support art made by women.

Read books, listen to music, and buy art created by women. 

  1. Listen. 

Ask women about their experiences and obstacles and act on their recommendations. 

  1. Start at home.

Who does the housework, the lion’s share of the caring and household admin?   

  1. Support women-owned businesses.

Shopping at small businesses owned by women supports them and their families—and improves local economies. 

  1. Stop stagnating women’s careers.

When they are pregnant, parenting, or assuming the responsibility for the care of their parents.  

  1. Don’t leave the office housework to women.

Do women, even if in a leadership role, take on more admin tasks at your workplace? 

  1. Advocate for gender equity in healthcare.

Know about common gender biases of doctors and call for the inclusion of more women in clinical trials. 

  1. Tune in.

Keep in touch with world affairs, watch documentaries, listen to podcasts, and find ways to remove obstacles to gender equity. 

  1. Use inclusive language.

When referring to groups of people, an inclusive “y’all” is better than the gender-specific ‘you guys” or “ladies and gentlemen.” 

  1. Separate performance.

Appreciate that talent doesn’t just look and behave in one way. Separate performance from potential and personality from skill sets. 

  1. Watch and attend women’s sporting events.

Start with the University of Kentucky Women’s Basketball, Softball, or Soccer games. 

  1. Check your bias.

Take the Implicit Association Test to measure attitudes and beliefs that people may be unwilling or unable to report. 

  1. Believe survivors of intimate partner abuse.

Support missions like ours to advocate against power-based violence, call for change, and support survivors during the healing journey. 

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Black History Month

This year’s national theme for Black History Month is Black Resistance.

Each year, the Association for the Study of African American Life and History (ASALH) chooses the theme for Black History Month. The Black Resistance theme is a call to study how Black Americans have established safe spaces where Black life can be sustained, fortified, and respected.

Indeed, this is true for ending intimate partner abuse. Our mission took shape with suffrage during the Jim Crow era. Theories of second-wave feminism, developed alongside the Civil Rights movement, defined the mission.

Black women resisted systemic racism and oppression during these decades—and exclusion by white women in the work—to develop philosophies, policies, and practices that are the cornerstone of our mission.

Safe Spaces

In more recent years, Black women have developed research and discourse that have redefined best practices in the field. But people of color harmed by an intimate partner are less likely to report the crimes or seek support from social service organizations than white women.

This report prepared by the Women of Color Network (WOCN) explains why. Distrust of law enforcement, criminal justice processes, and social service providers is common—for good reason.

Law enforcement are more likely to arrest Black women for self-defense in the context of intimate partner abuse. If seeking legal protection from abuse, Black victims are more likely to be criminalized by the judicial system than white victims.

The WOCN report also outlines several reasons that discourage Black victims of intimate partner abuse from accessing social services, including the following:

  • Cultural and/or religious beliefs
  • Lack of service providers that look like the survivor or share everyday experiences
  • Lack of culturally appropriate services
  • Lack of trust based on the history of racism and classism

“…the survivor seeking assistance is the only expert on their culture and their experiences within their community.”

Looking Back & Moving Forward

This month we renew our commitment to non-discrimination, honor contributions of Black women to our mission, and celebrate Black women-led organizations that are creating safe spaces for positive change.

Tarana Burke

Activist, community organizer, executive, and founder of the “me too” movement

Combahee River Collective

“We are a collective of Black feminists who have been meeting together since 1974.”

Kimberlé Crenshaw

American civil rights advocate and a leading scholar of critical race theory.

FreeFrom

“We’re creating an ecosystem in which survivors can thrive.”

Aileen Clarke Hernandez

Union organizer, civil rights activist, women’s rights activist, and former president of NOW.

National Black Women's Justice Network

We envision a society where healing—not punishment—is upheld as justice.”

Pauli Murray

Civil rights activist, gender equality advocate, Episcopal priest, lawyer, and author.

Ujima

The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community.

Women of Color Network

Dedicated to building the capacity of women of color advocates responding to violence against women of color.

Cover Image:

Collection of the Smithsonian National Museum of
African American History and Culture, Gift of Leah L.
Jones, © Leah L. Jones

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