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Bags to Riches

Your contribution could help us win $10,000 to support survivors💜

Thank you to J&H Outdoors for choosing us in the first round of this year’s Bags to Riches campaign!  

Through May, opt out of a bag at checkout and receive a chip to support one of four nonprofits. J&H then donates to the nonprofits and whoever has the most chips will move on to a final round held in November and December. The top two nonprofits have a chance to win $10,000! 

First round nonprofits include: GreenHouse17, Justin’s Place, Kentucky Cancer Link, and A Running Start.  

We also have an opportunity for a Double Donation Day. On May 11th, staff members will be at J&H from 10 am to 6 pm to share information and resources. Click here to mark you’re attending on the Facebook event.

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Be a social media ambassador for the mission to end intimate partner abuse 💜

Sharing content about our mission is an effective and meaningful way to volunteer your time and support survivors.

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Handmade by Survivors

We also welcome features and reviews of our Handmade by Survivors products and other social enterprises on our farm.

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Handmade by Survivors Reflections

“We are all handmade, we are not meant to be perfect, we are just meant to try to be our best selves possible.”

The following reflections were written by survivors who created Handmade by Survivors products this year. They’ve given us permission to share these stories with you. 

Survivor Reflection from “T” 

I have been down many roads. Some happy, some hard, some completely unimaginable. 

Along the way, I have learned so much about myself. At times it would have been easier for me to cave in and remain in my comfort zone, stagnate. At times I did just that.  

The most important thing I learned along the way is that everything happens in its own time, in its right time. It’s a balance of willpower and fate. When you’re ready all things will fall into place.  

The true absence of freedom is fear, worry, and anxiety. I have found my way out of so many dark places, I have risen above all sorts of negativity and chains trying to hold me down and yet sometimes I find I still worry about my capability to handle it all. To navigate through my life, to make right decisions. 

Today as I worked at the farm at GreenHouse17 I had a valuable lesson resurface. We are all handmade, we are not meant to be perfect, we are just meant to try to be our best selves possible. 

Survivor Reflection from “M” 

Lathering up hope, 

Kitchen sizzles with delight, 

Charred notes, 

Bright future. 

Survivor Reflection from “P” 

Today is a beautiful day. I woke up this morning. Thank you, God.  

GreenHouse17 is an amazing place. It saved my life. It was a hard time adjusting, but I survived.  

It has made me appreciate my life. Even more than before. 

I’m more humble, loving, caring for others than myself. 

Thankful & grateful. Without you God, I couldn’t have made it. 

Now I’m blooming into a flower with a face. 

I love myself again. 

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Podcasts About Intimate Partner Abuse

Choosing to read, watch, and listen to stories is one way you can help end intimate partner abuse. 

Stories help us to process, sympathize, and bond in shared experiences. Although some popular stories perpetuate myths and outdated assumptions, so many offer insight to understanding. We’ve compiled a list of podcasts for you to listen to.

It’s Time

The “It’s Time” awareness campaign started a podcast, It’s Time to Talk, hosted by Stephanie Theakston, program coordinator of the Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention Coalition (DSVPC), and Diane Fleet, associate director of our organization and chair of DSVPC.    

They recently released a recap episode so you can catch up here. 

When Dating Hurts

This podcast is hosted by Bill Mitchell whose daughter Kristin was murdered by her boyfriend. He interviews survivors, family members of victims, and professionals working in domestic violence.  

Listen here. 

Death, Sex & Money

A recent episode features Adonis Williams, a New York City mover who helps survivors of intimate partner abuse.  

“Adonis decided he wanted to help more victims of domestic violence move out of unsafe situations— a service he still provides today,” host Anna Sale. 

Listen here. 

I’m a Survivor

Host Misty Chaviers is a survivor and shares her personal story, as well as featuring other survivor stories and professionals. Her podcast was a finalist for the 2023 Digital Women Awards. 

Listen here. 

Unmasking the Abuser

Hosted by Dr. Dina McMillan, this podcast shares specific manipulation tactics of abusers. 

Listen here. 

Dr. McMillan has also done a TEDx Talk called Unmasking the abuser where she discusses her conversations with abusers. 

Watch here. 

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This is a collection of books, movies, songs, and TikToks for you to consider and contemplate.

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Fall Merch & Products

Fall has arrived, bringing cooler weather, and we have an exciting collection of merch and Handmade by Survivors products to share with you!

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We have four different types of hats! The waffle beanie is a staff favorite.

Show your support for survivors in this long-sleeve tee!

Stay warm with our comfortable logo sweatshirt and hoodie!

Shop by scent – browse our cinnamon Handmade by Survivors products.

Shop our collection of Awaken Joy Handmade by Survivors products with a blend of peppermint and eucalyptus.

Shop by scent – browse our herbal Handmade by Survivors products.

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The process of making products encourages healing and economic opportunity in a safe and caring environment.

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National Recovery Month

September is National Recovery Month.

Amber Clemons from Voices of Hope facilitates weekly SMART [self-management and recovery training] Recovery meetings at our shelter. We welcome her as a guest blogger this month.  

My name is Amber Clemons. I am a person in long-term recovery. My substance use began in 2011 after I had my third child. I began with using prescription opiates and that quickly escalated to using heroin/fentanyl.  

During my years in active substance use I committed crimes that ended in several jail stays and even a prison stay. I lost countless jobs, friends, my children, family, myself and so much more. When I came into recovery in September 2021 it was by the grace of God that I was arrested and incarcerated.  

During the early days of my jail stay during this time I was upset that I was in jail yet again, but then something changed in me, and I was grateful that I got pulled over that night and taken to jail. I hadn’t been in recovery for almost 6 years at the time and truly had no idea what I was doing with myself or my life.  

Thankfully the Judge and Drug Court saw something in me and gave me another chance at living a life of recovery. I was released to Drug Court and sober living, which all gave me the support and accountability that I lacked prior.

Since then, I have graduated Drug Court, gained a beautiful relationship with my children and mom, am employed, and have an apartment and a vehicle. I have peace of mind and serenity with life today among so much more. 

I get to work for Voices of Hope where we meet people where they are in recovery. We provide support to people who are in recovery or seeking recovery and connect people with community resources such as clothing closets, food banks and shelters.  

We connect people to MOUD [medications for opioid use disorder] clinics or provide resources for harm reduction, connect people with treatment – whether that be inpatient, outpatient, transitional IOP [intensive outpatient] living or sober living. Voices of Hope also hosts a wide variety of self-help meetings such as AA, SMART Recovery, Crystal Meth Anonymous, Life Recovery and so many more. 

I was asked to facilitate a SMART meeting at GreenHouse17 after they heard Alex Elswick speak about harm reduction and recovery with Voices of Hope. SMART meetings are not simply about substance use but changing behaviors/attitudes and making those lifestyle changes to make better choices in the future. We also work on goal setting, values, triggers and how to properly deal with them. SMART Recovery is a meeting that can help anyone no matter what lifestyle changes they are making! 

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It’s Time to Talk

Listen to the new podcast which discusses how you can help stop domestic violence.

The “It’s Time” awareness campaign has released a podcast, It’s Time to Talk, hosted by Stephanie Theakston, program coordinator of the Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention Coalition (DSVPC), and Diane Fleet, associate director of our organization and chair of DSVPC.  

Domestic violence is not a private issue. It’s our responsibility to have open conversations, model ways people can support survivors, and hold people who abuse accountable. This is talked about more in-depth in the podcast, which has two episodes out now. 

“We’re not asking you to add something else to your daily routine. We’re not asking you to take on a big volunteer project. We’re asking you to look at the roles that you’re currently in and how you can think about that differently in order to help prevent domestic violence,” explains Stephanie Theakston. 

Episode 1 

It’s Time to Talk hosts are joined by LeTonia Jones, activist, and Darlene Thomas, executive director of GreenHouse17, to discuss what to do when the people we love are the ones causing harm. How do you approach your family, friends, and loved ones when you see them engaging in behavior that’s abusive? 

“You need to educate yourself. The more you know as a family member, as a friend, a colleague, about this issue and the dynamics, the better we will be in our approach of accountability. This is not your solution, it’s their solution,” explains Darlene.

Episode 2 

Hosts are joined by Fr. Jim Sichko, a Catholic missionary, and Rev. Helene Van Koevering, St. Raphael Episcopal Church, to discuss how faith leaders can be a part of the solution when it comes to preventing domestic violence. 

“Be bold enough to call it out, to preach it, and begin to stop it.” – Fr. Jim Sichko 

It's Time to Talk

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End of Summer Survivor Reflections

“We are the flowers that are seeded, grown and harvested.” 

The following reflections were written by survivors participating in our nature-based healing program. They’ve given us permission to share these stories with you. 

Survivor Reflection from “L” 

My time here at GreenHouse17 is coming to an end.  I’m really happy to be moving on, but it’s very bittersweet.  I’ll miss this place, the women that I’ve met along the way, the support I’ve had from all the staff, and mostly the garden.  I’ll miss all the cats and the horses. 

I had gotten into a routine, and I was just starting to get comfortable.  I wake up early, get my coffee, sit on the back porch and watch the sun come up and then get ready for work. 

No matter what I’m doing in the garden, I love it all. 

The weeding, planting, and harvesting are my favorite and most rewarding.  It’s been so great to see the vegetables growing, especially the tomatoes and apples and the flowers. I’ve learned a lot about flowers, herbs, and just random stuff. 

I can take what I’ve learned and use it for the rest of my life and I’m so grateful for everything and everyone in it. It will always have a special place in my heart… 

Survivor Reflection From “M” 

Summer is winding down…I like to watch the beautiful butterflies and the smell the flowers. I learned how to harvest fresh tomatoes and how to start my own garden when I leave. The joy of learning new things; composting, dealing with frustrations that happen when tools or equipment fails. 

I will miss the crisp air, the sounds of nature all around, the beautiful sunflowers that shine in all their glory. I give thanks to God for this opportunity and working together with great people. 

I cut flowers, picked up the weeds, harvested veggies and fruits, and helped canned tomatoes from the garden. I didn’t realize how simple it is to can food. 

It’s very peaceful and it’s giving me much needed time to just think. 

Survivor Reflection from “C” 

Working in the garden is a memory that I will forever remember! I’m very sad to see the season come to an end. I am very proud of the things that I have learned. I am going to miss having fun and great conversation every day! I will not at all miss the grasshoppers!!  

It makes me proud and feel good that all of us amazing women have pulled together to work and meet goals, to make beautiful things happen, and to make other people smile. Just coming together as a family makes me the happiest.  

This has prepared me for going to get another job, because now I believe in myself and I know I can do anything that I set my mind to. Even the things I think I can’t, I’m still going to try!! The opportunity I have and was given is much more than appreciated. It made my life better, it made me smile again, and has given me such an amazing feeling. 

As a group of diverse women we have dedicated our time and hearts to the garden, watching it flourish and thrive, leaving us filled with warmth, accomplishment and pride. 

[It’s] given us a sense of purpose and provides a loving family atmosphere that most of us lack and genuinely need.  

We are the flowers that are seeded, grown and harvested. 

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Advocates at Music Festivals

Our advocates are dedicated to promoting awareness, resources, and safe spaces at music festivals this summer.🎶

Maybe you’ve seen our booth at one of these big multiday festivals – Railbird [Lexington], Rislofest [Harrodsburg], and HollerGirl [Livingston].  

“Festivals are heightened situations with possible substance use,” explains advocate Alyssa. “By having our booth during the day, people know how to seek help. Our booth serves as a safe space.”

The effort is working.

Intervention stopped one active intimate partner abuse incident. Another festival attendee called and found shelter after the festival. More generally, information about services and support encourages discussion about the mission.

Be an Active Bystander 

August is peak music festival season and Active Bystander Awareness Month.  The Safer Spaces campaign, based in the United Kingdom, suggests the 5 Ds model for festival goers to promote safety:

  1. DIRECT: Consider directly intervening if you feel safe. Communicate that the behavior is not tolerable.
  2. DISTRACT: Take an indirect approach to deescalate the situation. Interrupt what is happening. Maybe you spill your drink or start a random conversation.
  3. DELEGATE: Get help from someone else, possibly security staff, to intervene.
  4. DOCUMENT: Take photos or videos on your phone to document the situation as it’s happening.
  5. DELAY: Find a way to check in with the person who was harmed when it’s safe.
Green Dot Lexington

Green Dot Lexington offers tips, resources, and training to harness your power as a bystander. Choose safety for someone who may be at risk for violence or abuse. Learn more on their Facebook page.

Further Reading

Refinery29 - Sexual Assault Is Still Rampant At Music Festivals. Here's How We Stop It.

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Celebrating Del Martin

“Nothing was ever accomplished by hiding in a dark corner.” 

Del Martin was a feminist activist who played a crucial role in the gay rights and domestic violence movements.  

Martin co-founded multiple organizations that advanced women’s rights: 

  • Daughters of Bilitis in 1955 – the first lesbian organization in the United States 
  • National Organization for Women in 1966 – raised awareness around domestic violence and pushed for legislative changes to protect survivors 
  • Coalition for Justice in 1976 – focused on domestic violence and sexual assault rights 

Martin wrote an article for Women’s eNews in 2002 and said: 

“A lot of people forget that lesbians started the domestic violence movement. Some shelter folks get upset when I say it, but it’s true. The radical women in the 1970s were already disgusted with the system, and when this issue came up, it was something they could really get behind. Suddenly, these women who were into questioning authority became lobbyists–wanting laws changed, wanting to influence policy!” 

In 1976, Martin published ‘Battered Wives,’ an analysis of domestic violence, its seriousness, and how the legal system had failed women. 

She also chaired the Consultation on Battered Women: Issues of Public Policy in 1978, which resulted in The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence being formed and helped create the Domestic Violence Prevention and Services Act in 1984. 

She was first in line to marry her longtime partner, Phyllis Lyon, in 2004 when the mayor of San Francisco, Gavin Newsom, said marriage licenses should be issued to LGBTQ+ couples. The California Supreme Court voided those licenses two months later. 

Phyllis said, “Del is 83 years old and I am 79. After being together for more than 50 years, it is a terrible blow to have the rights and protections of marriage taken away from us. At our age, we do not have the luxury of time.” 

Del and Phyllis were again first in line to get married after the California Supreme Court ruled in favor of LGBTQ+ marriages on June 16, 2008. Mayor Newsom officiated the ceremony.  

Del passed away later that year on August 27 at age 87.  

This Pride Month, we celebrate Del Martin’s legacy and lifelong dedication to domestic violence and gay rights. She continues to inspire activists and advocates for women’s rights.

Further Reading

Click the link above to read more about Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon’s legacy from Medium’s Queer History for the People.

Cover photo credit: Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin Papers (1993-13), Courtesy of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Historical Society

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