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Be a social media ambassador for the mission to end intimate partner abuse 💜

Sharing content about our mission is an effective and meaningful way to volunteer your time and support survivors.

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React to our posts, comment, share, and tag us in your posts! Interactions help our content reach more people.

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Each blog post on our website includes links to share the information on social media. A personal note from you with the shared links helps make a connection with your friends.

Handmade by Survivors

We also welcome features and reviews of our Handmade by Survivors products and other social enterprises on our farm.

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To get started, send us a message from your favorite social media account!

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Cards of Encouragement

A few kind words can make a difficult day feel better. Writing notes of encouragement is a meaningful way to support survivors. 

You can write a couple of cards or a bundle of many cards. This makes for a lovely way for your community, faith, or work group to support the mission. In addition to blank cards with encouraging notes, we also welcome cards for birthdays, Mother’s Day, and other holidays. 

TIPS & IDEAS
  • Use a general salutation: Hello, Hi there, and Dear Survivor are good options.
  • Start with a sentence about why you’re writing the card:  This must be such a difficult time for you, and I wanted to let you know someone cares.
  • You don’t have to write a lot. Just a couple of lines can make a difference. Lean into celebrating the survivor’s strength and courage.
  • Close with a message of hope – maybe something like this: May your tomorrows be safer, brighter, and full of hope and possibilities.
  • Sign with your first name or first + last name, but please don’t include your address or phone number.

General messaging about prayer, faith, and spirituality can be meaningful. But please avoid including specific scripture or the promotion of a specific religion in your cards. Please also ensure your personal or work email, telephone, and mailing address are not included on the cards/envelopes.

FINAL STEP

When your cards are ready, bundle them up and mail to address below or send a note to Hallie to request driving directions to deliver the cards to our shelter. 

GreenHouse17
ATTN: Community Engagement
PO Box 55190
Lexington, KY 40555-5190 

Download the flyer.

Click on the link above to download a flyer to print or share with others.

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Valentine’s Day is our Anniversary

Federal designation officially naming our organization a nonprofit entity arrived on February 14, 2005.

We’re celebrating with a series of Valentine’s Day cards that you can share with friends, family, and partners on social media to raise awareness about healthy relationships.

Visit our social media pages to share these cards with someone special. Or just click or tap on an image below to send one today.

💜Facebook   💜Instagram   💜LinkedIn

 

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2023 Farm Wrap Up

This is a special blog contribution written by Hattie Nunley, farm advocate.

It feels like this past growing season went by in the blink of an eye.

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We saw growth in our farm programming to promote nature-based healing, with over 90 farm-related support group activities offered to survivors. These activities included crafts using dried flowers, healthy cooking workshops using homegrown fruits and vegetables, and trauma-informed yoga beneath our farm pavilion.  

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Paid work opportunities were also made available to shelter residents once more, with 24 residents earning supplemental income by working on the farm throughout the year. We are so proud to be able to support survivors financially through our farm stipend project and provide a safe, peaceful environment for healing and personal growth.  

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Our farm-to-table dining continued this year, with a wide array of farm-fresh produce used in nutritious meals. Heirloom tomatoes, sweet peppers, zucchini, potatoes, onions, apples, and winter squash were just some of the many fruits and vegetables that found their way into our shelter kitchen to help nourish the families that were with us in 2023.  

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Stay tuned for updates on what we have in store for the 2024 growing season! 

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Martin Luther King Jr. Day

Community coming together in honor of Martin Luther King Jr.

Today staff members are attending the annual MLK Holiday Celebration and joining the Freedom March to honor Martin Luther King Jr.’s legacy. The program after the march includes keynote speaker Rev. Kevin W. Cosby, Ph.D. and Peabo Bryson performing with youth choral groups Uniting Voices Chicago and Uniting Voices Lexington.  

We’re also excited to welcome back our former AmeriCorps VISTA, Carla, with a group from her church, Redeemed Christian Church of God Open Door Parish. Their Martin Luther King Jr. Day of Service includes organizing the supplies in the basement to prepare for our next Shop & Share event in February.  

We are honored to attend the MLK Holiday Celebration and are thankful for all RCCG Open Door Parish has done to support survivors 💜 

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Stalking Awareness Month

January 2024 is the 20th annual National Stalking Awareness Month (NSAM)

Stalking often co-occurs with intimate partner violence and can be an indicator of other forms of violence.  

All stalkers can be dangerous. Intimate partner stalkers, compared to acquaintance and stranger stalkers, are more likely to threaten and physically assault the victim and their friends and family.  

Did you know stalking can include these behaviors?  

  • Repeated phone calls, texts, or communication on your social media  
  • Sending unwanted gifts to your home or work  
  • Threatening you or your loved ones  
  • Following you or watching you from a distance  
  • Digital harassment, such as tracking your location through an app or showing up at a place you’ve checked into online  

Learn more about the crime and ways to plan for your safety:  

National Day of Action for Stalking Awareness 

SPARC is launching the first National Day of Action for Stalking Awareness on January 18th 

On January 18, 2003 Peggy Klinke was murdered by her stalker, her ex-boyfriend. 

Learn more about Peggy’s story here. [Trigger warning: The video talks about stalking, murder, and includes clips of Peggy’s 911 call] 

“Peggy had a sparkling personality and would light up a room. As the stalking continued and continued, we saw that shine fade.” – Debbie Riddle, Stalking Activist, Peggy’s sister, and founder of National Stalking Awareness Month

SPARC is bringing back the sparkle on the anniversary of Peggy’s murder and you can help spread awareness.  

On January 18th

  • Post a photo on social media wearing sparkly or shiny clothing or pose in front of sparkly decor
  • Tag SPARC – @followuslegally on Facebook and Instagram
  • Use the hashtags #SparkleAgainstStalking #NSAM2024 #NSAMDayofAction 

Learn more.

Visit SPARC's website.

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Jean Sabharwal Award

Bluegrass Families First is presenting our executive director, Darlene Thomas, with the 2024 Jean Sabharwal Award!

This award recognizes those who have demonstrated passionate advocacy for Lexington’s children and families. Tickets are on sale now for the award luncheon presented by Republic Bank. 

March 8, 2024
11:30 AM
The Kentucky Castle 

From Bluegrass Families First 

Since December 2004, Darlene has served as founder/Executive Director for GreenHouse17.  GreenHouse17, serving 17 central Kentucky counties, is an advocacy agency committed to ending intimate partner abuse and its impact on families and the community.  In her 33-year career as an advocate for survivors of power based violence and their families she has been responsible for direct service, comprehensive program development, and community engagement for social change efforts.  

Ms. Thomas provides leadership for multiple community collaborations and committees; provides expert testimony on legal cases; facilitates professional development training for local, state, national and international forums, and provides consultation for organizations who are seeking strategies to reimagine their services.  

Under her leadership, GreenHouse17 programs and services have received statewide and national awards for Innovation including: Commerce Lexington Nonprofit Community Impact Award, National ‘Shelter of the Year’ Purple Ribbon Award, Theresa Mary Byron Foundation Celebrating Solutions Award, the Kentucky Non Profit Network Innovative Award, the Center for Non Profit Excellency Pyramid Award for Social Innovation and was a Partnership for Freedom/Reimagine Opportunity national finalist.  She currently serves as Past-President and Legislative Chair for the ZeroV,  Kentucky’s domestic violence coalition. 

About Jean Sabharwal 

The Jean Sabharwal Award was inaugurated in February of 2014 during an event held to honor the founding partners of the Family Care Center. The award was presented to Jean Sabharwal, founding director of the Family Care Center. Ms. Sabharwal is a remarkable pioneer whose many years of dedication and advocacy have resulted in brighter futures and better lives for families and young children. 

The award was established by Bluegrass Families First to annually recognize an individual or group who has demonstrated passionate advocacy for Lexington’s children and families. The spirit of this award is fittingly expressed through a beautiful stained glass piece by Lexington artist Dan Barnes.

 

Senate Resolution 

Kentucky Senator Reginald Thomas introduced a resolution to recognize Darlene Thomas for receiving Jean Sabharwal Award from Bluegrass Families First. The Congressional Record of the 2024 Regular Session will commemorate the honor on the date of the award luncheon. 

 

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Handmade by Survivors Reflections

“We are all handmade, we are not meant to be perfect, we are just meant to try to be our best selves possible.”

The following reflections were written by survivors who created Handmade by Survivors products this year. They’ve given us permission to share these stories with you. 

Survivor Reflection from “T” 

I have been down many roads. Some happy, some hard, some completely unimaginable. 

Along the way, I have learned so much about myself. At times it would have been easier for me to cave in and remain in my comfort zone, stagnate. At times I did just that.  

The most important thing I learned along the way is that everything happens in its own time, in its right time. It’s a balance of willpower and fate. When you’re ready all things will fall into place.  

The true absence of freedom is fear, worry, and anxiety. I have found my way out of so many dark places, I have risen above all sorts of negativity and chains trying to hold me down and yet sometimes I find I still worry about my capability to handle it all. To navigate through my life, to make right decisions. 

Today as I worked at the farm at GreenHouse17 I had a valuable lesson resurface. We are all handmade, we are not meant to be perfect, we are just meant to try to be our best selves possible. 

Survivor Reflection from “M” 

Lathering up hope, 

Kitchen sizzles with delight, 

Charred notes, 

Bright future. 

Survivor Reflection from “P” 

Today is a beautiful day. I woke up this morning. Thank you, God.  

GreenHouse17 is an amazing place. It saved my life. It was a hard time adjusting, but I survived.  

It has made me appreciate my life. Even more than before. 

I’m more humble, loving, caring for others than myself. 

Thankful & grateful. Without you God, I couldn’t have made it. 

Now I’m blooming into a flower with a face. 

I love myself again. 

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Podcasts About Intimate Partner Abuse

Choosing to read, watch, and listen to stories is one way you can help end intimate partner abuse. 

Stories help us to process, sympathize, and bond in shared experiences. Although some popular stories perpetuate myths and outdated assumptions, so many offer insight to understanding. We’ve compiled a list of podcasts for you to listen to.

It’s Time

The “It’s Time” awareness campaign started a podcast, It’s Time to Talk, hosted by Stephanie Theakston, program coordinator of the Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention Coalition (DSVPC), and Diane Fleet, associate director of our organization and chair of DSVPC.    

They recently released a recap episode so you can catch up here. 

When Dating Hurts

This podcast is hosted by Bill Mitchell whose daughter Kristin was murdered by her boyfriend. He interviews survivors, family members of victims, and professionals working in domestic violence.  

Listen here. 

Death, Sex & Money

A recent episode features Adonis Williams, a New York City mover who helps survivors of intimate partner abuse.  

“Adonis decided he wanted to help more victims of domestic violence move out of unsafe situations— a service he still provides today,” host Anna Sale. 

Listen here. 

I’m a Survivor

Host Misty Chaviers is a survivor and shares her personal story, as well as featuring other survivor stories and professionals. Her podcast was a finalist for the 2023 Digital Women Awards. 

Listen here. 

Unmasking the Abuser

Hosted by Dr. Dina McMillan, this podcast shares specific manipulation tactics of abusers. 

Listen here. 

Dr. McMillan has also done a TEDx Talk called Unmasking the abuser where she discusses her conversations with abusers. 

Watch here. 

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Children’s Safe Exchange and Visitation Expansion

Children’s safe exchange and visitation services reduce risks for violence while encouraging safety, healing, and healthy parent-child connection.

Community members gathered on November 10th to support the launch of children’s safe exchange and visitation services for residents of Boyle, Garrard, Lincoln, and Mercer counties. Grace Church provides space for services in the children’s wing of their facility in Danville.  

“As a church, we are committed to helping the families and children of our community flourish,” says Director of Ministries Kevin Dilbeck. “We are excited to open some of our space to help meet this need.” 

More than 400 petitions for orders of protection are filed in the region each year. Escalation of violence is common when victims separate from abusive partners, and many survivors and their children risk harm while fulfilling custody agreements.  

When visitation between child(ren) and the non-custodial parent/guardian must be supervised, for example by court order, a specially trained monitor is present to document observations during the visitation. Safe exchanges oversee the transition of child(ren) between parents/ guardians if off-site visitation is allowed. 

No contact occurs between custodial and non-custodial parties during visitations or exchanges. Up to 30 weekly visitations and exchanges will be facilitated when the program reaches operational capacity.  

Shannon Weer coordinates the newest location. Shannon is a former professor in the criminal justice department at Eastern Kentucky University, where she taught domestic violence issues. 

“We provide a space for families where children are kept safe,” Shannon says. 

We commit to prioritizing the safety of children and adults; honoring the nature, dynamics, and impact of intimate partner abuse; and treating participants with fairness and respect. 

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